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Separate what was said from how it was said

Let’s say our coworkers are named Fry and Bender. Bender points out something Fry is doing wrong. But he points it out like a complete jerk. So Fry, in surprise and hurt, tries to defend what he’s doing. This is

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The case against hope

On the album American Slang by Gaslight Anthem, a favourite band of mine for years, there’s a line I quoted to someone who was angrily describing how life should be. “Stop clicking your red heels and wishing for home.” After

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I was worried

I don’t think any of us are ever in denial about a friend’s depression. We all see it happening, what’s weird is when I see people playacting denial about a friend’s depression, as if it were a strategy. A phrase

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Being seen trying

I was listening to someone talk about their history with eating disorders and they mentioned the first time they sought help it didn’t work. This is common I think with absolutely everything. I heard someone with Lyme disease say the

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Lawrence Krauss on (and off) conspiratorial thinking

I’m fascinated by plausibility these days, why one person can hear something and find it ridiculous and another person find it to be of earth-shattering significance. But I know a big part of it is that everyone thinks they’re a

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On being rude

We all know there is a threshold where people are too dumb to realize they’re dumb. In bars I always end up eavesdropping on people and a character I love to hear and hate to be noticed by we’ll call

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Worries

I’m often worried about other people being in pain I’m not seeing, not helping with. I know that when I’m truly in crisis I’m disengaged. My behaviour is erratic, I’m quiet sometimes but not hostilely so, loud fun and social

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